Marriage
I feel compelled today to start some dialog about this subject.
I married the first time when I was 18. Way too young and completely clueless. I failed in that marriage then waited 13 years before doing it again. What I have learned and am still learning, is marriage is about not changing your partner but helping them be a better person because you are a better person when you are with them.
It is not easy this constant dance we entered into. Sometimes you just want to sit it out but your partner wants to keep dancing. Ok, silly metaphor. Yet it is a dance. We try to make sure we don't step on toes, keep things flowing smoothly and try not to get all tangled up. We compromise, we communicate, we fight, we cry, we make up and we continue to try to bring harmony and balance to this relationship dance.
I know very little. I like to think I know things but basically I am fairly ignorant. Yet, I believe I have learned this. When I am having issues, i.e. Kurt is getting on my last nerve I tell him. I talk to him. We express our emotions and try to come up with a solution. We also are honest and trusting of each other.
Marriage is not easy but it is wonderful. It is a fabulous feeling knowing someone is there for you through anything. Knowing you can tell this person your deepest secrets and they will still love you.
It is a blessing, never to be taken for granted.
It is not easy this constant dance we entered into. Sometimes you just want to sit it out but your partner wants to keep dancing. Ok, silly metaphor. Yet it is a dance. We try to make sure we don't step on toes, keep things flowing smoothly and try not to get all tangled up. We compromise, we communicate, we fight, we cry, we make up and we continue to try to bring harmony and balance to this relationship dance.
I know very little. I like to think I know things but basically I am fairly ignorant. Yet, I believe I have learned this. When I am having issues, i.e. Kurt is getting on my last nerve I tell him. I talk to him. We express our emotions and try to come up with a solution. We also are honest and trusting of each other.
Marriage is not easy but it is wonderful. It is a fabulous feeling knowing someone is there for you through anything. Knowing you can tell this person your deepest secrets and they will still love you.
It is a blessing, never to be taken for granted.
posted by Kelly @ 10:06 AM
4 Comments:
At 4:35 PM,
The one and only Tree said…
Thanks for your post. It was truly inspirational...that is what it truly is about. It isn't an easy ride, but even with all the work involved...I truly believe marriage is worth it when it is with the right person.
At 1:00 PM,
jen said…
Aww.
I am glad that you have agood marriage. I have a good one too, and agree that when it's with the right person, it's fantastic.
Have a wonderful 3 day weekend by the way!
At 4:28 PM,
Tanya said…
I wish I was back in that mode, being on the same page, being one together, agreeing to disagree. I remember the days. Having a child seemed to change things, but I don't blame her. We should be on the same page no matter what life throws at you. I wouldn't change her for anything, but it is 110% effort all the time. Communication is of the utmost importance. Mine is not that problem, it's different, but you have it going on and I admire that, envious of that. Hopefully mine will get its shit together or sink, and I'm not sure exactly what will happen. Open mind is a good thing, good listener, intimacy is also very important and that covers a large area, I've learned. God Bless you both, you are a very good couple and I'm glad to have been in your life, and can admire this from afar. Have a fantastic weekend also! Love always,
At 9:19 AM,
Kelly said…
Tanya,
Kurt & I have our share of problems. We fight, bicker, argue, but what we always try to do is tell each other what is bugging us. We never attack but just say hey this is what I am feeling. It isn't always easy. It can be very challeging. But I value him and his opinions. I value our marriage. I made this commitment to Kurt, God, my freinds & family. If I have issues I talk to Kurt. I also use my friends as sounding boards. I hope things work out for you. You are in my prayers.
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